Get your kink on by opening a book
As many of you know, Ms. Olivia and I are sharing a discussion on the book “A billion wicked thoughts.” This is a very good book about human sexuality and the differences between men and woman and what we find sexy.
You don’t have to read the book to add to the discussion. It would be great if you did. You are missing out if you don’t read…
There are different ways to participate, through blog discussions. Ms. Olivia already started writing about it she wrote an interesting blog post Experienced Mistress and wicked thoughts and she has much to say, so go ahead and feel free to add to the discussion on her blog by adding a comment. You can also participate via twitter and our very own Enchantrix Empire. There will be polls and other ways to add to our book discussion.
Join the discussion on what turns us on
Over on Enchantrix Empire, I have a book group. It has been inactive for a very long time and I am going to change that. Would you like to help me with that? 😉 I am also reading She comes first. I highly recommend this to all women and men that are interested in woman’s sexuality.
So, this summer feel free to get a copy of both books and add to our summer book discussion. The subject matter is both fascinating and highly informative.
The more you know, the better lover you will become
I don’t think either book will be easy for you to put down. I know it is difficult for me. 🙂
There might even be a future chat room discussion in the near future … depends on how you all participate.
Here are some things you might learn from reading these two books. And, I am not going to tell you which book is which:
* A woman’s clitoris is made up of 18 parts.
* Women tend to experience more sexual anxiety due to social pressures
If you want to take a guess on which book gives you the above information take a guess in the comment section below and see what happens when you get it right…
Tomorrow is Summer Solstice why don’t you make this summer not only a sexy one but an informative one?
Join Ms. Olivia and I by reading A billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam.
I am also reading, ” She Comes First, The thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman.” By, Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
This is going to be one hot and kinky summer! I know first hand, that Ms. Olivia and I are looking forward to sharing in the discussion and look forward to what you have to say about the subject matter.
Have a kink-licous day!
Princess Andi~
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Bfla,
Sounds fascinating. I am not there yet. I am enjoying the discussion. Thank you for the comment.
~Princess Andi~
Thank you Ms. Olivia.
I love how everyone is responding to this book. I am glad you recommended it.
You know, I don’t always understand why, I like what I like, I just like it. I don’t make excuses for it. I don’t make apologies for it. I am a kinky girl and it is refreshing to read this book and reading about what others find sexy.
Thank you so much to both of you, Andi and Olivia, for your insightful responses. I think all three of us were saying the same thing in slightly different ways. Olivia, I wrote you more on your blog about your thoughts. Andi, thank you for sharing your thoughts and your personal story to make your point (and one I agree with). I was glad to read what you wrote and how you enjoy men from all walks of life. It reinforces my experiences.
I’m sure the “science” here is an accurate recitation of what these two found in their research on the internet. But as we all are saying internet research and preliminary visual cues can fall away when the decisions become more serious and long-term. And there we all have different visual and psychological cues. There was a great quote in Chapter 8 from one woman: “George Clooney and Sean Connery are sex symbols, but Bill Gates (younger, richer, and more powerful than either of them) is not. Our chances are abysmal for marrying any of the above men. That being the case, of course we’re going to fantasize about the good-looking ones, because all we’re thinking about is sex. If we were contemplating who to marry and had a choice from among them, that would change things considerably.” That sums it up for a lot of people, I think.
I found Chapter 7 about gay men’s visual and psychological cues fascinating. It was really interesting that their visual cues and what I will call internet interests followed very closely those of heterosexual men. Take that all of you who think there is such a big difference between us. One thing that really pained me to read, however, was the paragraph from the gay man who had heterosexual friends and acquaintances who were curious and interested in experimenting, and so had sex with him. It was painful to read how those men often cried and seemed to regret what they had done, but that it was simply a good time for him. As both of you know, I have struggled with some of my kinks and fetishes, and with feelings of embarrassment or reticence after having tried things. Fortunately mistresses like both of you are there to help us. It’s a common struggle, I know, for many men who have dildo or cock thoughts, and it was interesting and painful at the same time to read that paragraph.
Thanks again for the really engaging and educational discussion to both of you.
This is a comment in response to Bfla. I just posted the first paragraph of My comment on My blog: https://www.experiencedmistress.com/2013/06/experienced-mistress-and-wicked-thoughts/
Here’s the rest of comment:
(( I’m talking about scientific evidence versus anecdotal evidence. ))
Think of it like framing for a photograph or better still news footage on video. What you SEE (and therefore experience) depends in large part on how the situation is portrayed….or, said, differently, how ‘life’ is framed creates the ‘truth’ or the ‘history.’
So….if there’s something like violence, for example, and the news footage is a tight shot of the action tightly framed like a good news photog would frame it then the viewer at home sees a screen FILLED with action and has a visceral experience of OMG there’s so much violence. If the camera pulls back and shoots from an angle atop a building and the home viewer sees a small spot of activity in an otherwise normal looking area the perception is much different.
I think this is similar. I see Femdom relationships all over and as the norm for several reasons. I am one. I’m in a Femdom relationship (sexually I’m the Mistress). And, I work and play in the fetish kink scene as a Mistress.
I see the nuances you’re talking about.
In the absence of scientific study or “the aggregate” numbers anecdotal evidence is used. A Billion Wicked Thoughts is the first attempt to begin to apply scientific standards to what people are searching for on the internet. So, while their results are valid, I think take a few of the ‘conclusions’ with a bit of a grain of salt because the science is new and therefore needs to be replicated.
I will say this (My own personal anecdote LOL) women and men might have an automatic trigger of certain traits that attract but there’s a difference between initial attraction and the choice of who is attractive in the long term. Does that make sense?
LOL! Thank you for clarifying that you never played a woman on tv… I was just wondering about that! ha ha ha…
I need to catch up. I haven’t read chapter 5 yet.
I will need to read before I respond to most of your comment. However, I am a cock teasing Princess and I enjoy men of all walks of life.
As most of you know, my boyfriend is a nurse and plans on going to medical school.
He is smart, kind and funny and manly…
However in the bedroom, he can be very submissive and that doesn’t make him any less of a man in my eyes…
~Princess Andi~
You are welcome Andi. I forgot to say I loved the book picture too.
Well, Chapter 5 is the first chapter I have read that made me question whether the research accurately portrays the state of affairs between men and women. Particularly the repeated emphasis on women only being attracted to “alpha” males who are dominant bad boys who can be rough and tough and mean with everyone else, but only that woman can unlock their tender, sensitive “good” side. I’m not a woman and I have never played one on TV, but it seems that is a gross over-generalization. Maybe in romance novels and early on in high school do dominance and physical power serve as the overwhelming attractor of women, but I think things are far more subtle and complex in rest of the world. There are plenty of women who are attracted to different kinds of men. It isn’t only the so-called power positions and wealth that work. Look at the relationships here at LDW. If A Billion Wicked Thoughts is right, then you mistresses are really just toying with a lot of really neat, strong men in their own right who enjoy submissive ways to have a business relationship. And I don’t believe that’s true for a minute. And claims adjustors, government workers and male nurses and secretaries can be just as hot and attractive as any astronaut or cowboy (ok, a little cash and a big, thick dick don’t hurt either :)). Smart, funny, kind, and generous work well right along side the physical and other characteristics trumpeted in this chapter in my opinion. I don’t think their portrayal is any more valid than the idea that men think porn actresses are the ideal. Fun to look at and fantasize about, but in the end there are real women with a myriad of traits that attract a myriad of men. I think the reverse is true as well. I am really interested in both your thoughts.
Thank you Bfla, I am glad to see you are enjoying the book. Ms. Olivia is the one that told me about it and I am so excited to be doing this with her.
It is a real fascinating book. Thank you for reading it with us.
I appreciate your willingness to help with the book club, I look forward to seeing you around Enchantrix Empire…
We do share a passion for books. 🙂
Thank you for adding to the discussion.
~Princess Andi~
Well hi there Andi. As you know, I am reading A Billion Wicked Thoughts and have been tweeting and commenting about it. I will do so here too. It is an absolutely fascinating book and I am enjoying discussing it with you and others. I am learning a lot. The descriptions of men’s and women’s sexual cues and the differences between them in chapters 3 and 4 are really interesting. And so many things there ring true!I will write more about specific chapters as I read them. I am so glad you and Olivia are doing this!
I would love to help you get the book club started again, any way you want. We share a love of books and I look forward to reading more with you.