Cuckolding fetish is very exciting. Many men and woman are thinking about giving Cuckolding a try. The number one question– I am asked when it comes to Cuckolding is: ‘Will being into cuckolding ruin my relationship’? My response is usually the same because the answer to this question, really does depend on your relationship. If you are both secure human beings. Both communicate well. Are honest with each other, then the answer to this question will be a no. If anything, Cuckolding will strengthen your relationship. Here are some habits strong couples in the cuckolding lifestyle do to maintain a healthy, loving relationship.
3 healthy ways to maintain your cuckolding relationship
- Strong boundaries— They each have their own personal boundaries and their boundaries as a couple. They not only respect each others boundaries, they protect them and keep those boundaries strong.
- Communication— Taking the time to check in and share what’s going on. Taking the time to listen. Really. Listen. To. Each. Other. This helps strengthen the relationship. They communicate about their boundaries. They check in with each other. I will write a blog post on what kind of questions you should ask each other before wanting to jump in to the cuckolding part.
- Takes time out of the month to be Andi and Steve. hee-hee insert your own names– I used my name and my boyfriends name. You get the idea. It’s important to do this. I make this suggestion in any BDSM type of relationship. You take a week or at least a few days each month to be you. This helps both of you take a break and gives you the space to connect in other ways that will help you grow as a couple. Just take the time to take a break from your fetish and be with each other.
I have seen strong couples blossom in a cuckold relationship. I have seen troubled marriages implode before even getting started. If you are agreeing to try cuckolding to save your marriage–or any type of fetish to save your marriage. It probably won’t work– especially, if you really are not into it. That is the worse reason to get into the cuckold lifestyle. Try marriage counseling instead.
Cuckolding can be very fulfilling for both partners– Just remember to keep maintaining your relationship, in and out of the bedroom.
I love hearing your cuckold stories. Share what works or doesn’t work for you!
Princess Andi
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Thank you Mike, I feel you are very brave to be a cuckold. Cuckolding really is a delicate thing. You open yourself up and become vulnerable in a way that surprises, not only you, but your wife. I am sure you find that you and your wife are closer now and that you communicate much better then many other couples. I love that you shared your cuckold experience with me. Thanks again!
My wife and I entered into this very carefully. Initially it was her thought but she did not push it. I was scared but wanted to try it. She was (very) clear that this would only be on her end and she was not open to me doing anything with anyone else – that would not fit our dynamic anyway. It is very emotional. I get scared, excited, nervous, and I tend to need a lot of reassurance but she know that. As time goes on she has brought me more into it. Not directly into the sex but into telling me things. I have gotten more comfortable over time. For her it was very successful almost immediately. It is a very delicate thing initially.
Cuckolding can go wrong more often for men than women. A husband thinks it will be so hot to see his wife with another man. The wife decides to go with it and suddenly husband’s time with wife starts to diminish as she gets into the other man more. She can even realize what she was missing sexually with her husband. This is the worst case scenario, but it could be just fine.
Mistress Amber, hee hee Thanks Sexy!
When it comes to cuckolding, I often use the phrase ‘Be careful what you wish for!’ But in all seriousness, cuckolding can be alot of fun. However, every situation is different. Some couples will go into it with rules and a plan, and sometimes you’ll find out later that your wife has been doing her own thing! There’s ways to work around each of those scenarios (and others) to help them to be the sexiest opportunities they can be for a husband or a boyfriend. Us LDW ladies have some ideas for you!
Thank you so much for sharing Princess Andi. All of it makes sense. I’ve proposed cuckolding to my wife but she’s rejected the idea. It’s not something I’d ever push on her or want her to do to please me. It would have to be something she would want to do to even get started.
Andi,
Thanks for the post. I agree. My marriage ended. The cuckolding was at the end. It wasn’t an attempt to save the marriage. It was more of an act of frustration on her part. “Fine. I can’t get you to fuck me so I’ll find some one who will. With a big cock.” She didn’t know that leaving the evidence for me to find would turn me on. Once she knew I liked it, she did it more often. For me it was the perfect end. I knew the marriage was over. I was happy (and really turned on!) that she was getting the sex she deserved. And once it ended, I was free to explore my homosexual tendencies. Win win.
GBFF