Looking for an online dominatrix can be challenging. Regardless, if you are new to BDSM or a seasoned submissive. When in need of a new Mistress or in my case Princess, (I answer to either.)  it can be difficult. My heart really goes out to the guy that was in a very happy BDSM relationship with a Mistress and for whatever reasons, he finds out he needs to find another Mistress. You can read more about that on my future blog post So you are needing a new Mistress to phone.

Here are some questions you need to be asking your potential new Mistress. Remember to listen to your gut as well.

5 Questions to ask your new phone dominatrix

1. As a phone dominatrix– What characteristics would you use to best describe your dominant style? This question gives you a great opportunity to learn more about your potential Mistress.

For me. I would use these adjectives to best describe me and my role as your Cock Control Mistress:

1)wickedly playful
2) demanding
3) bossy as fuck
4) compassionate
5) nurturing

You can go and read my past blog posts and read my online reviews to get a better sense of what kind of Mistress- I am. This is true for most Mistresses. So, do your research.

2) What scenes, kink turns you on?  This next question is tricky. And, I feel it is important to ask a potential new Mistress this kind of question but I can’t answer for all Mistresses. Dominatrix’s are like snow flakes no two are a like. We all bring our own unique experiences to the table.

I love the above question but I don’t like this question– What will you do to me?  Can you see the difference in the two questions. When a guy asks me “What will you do to me?”  My initial response is-  Dude, I hardly know you. I am not going to answer this, especially in a text or email. You need to do a call and ask that question. If you do ask me, “What do you want to do to me?” You might hear me let out an involuntary groan. Don’t worry–  I will  still talk to you and answer your question–  but first expect a lot of questions from me before you get an answer.

3) What experiences do you have in power exchange?

This is a very good question. This question tells me– that you are really interested in knowing me. This question usually leads to more questions and you really get a better understanding of my history as a Mistress. This is a question, I feel you need to ask any Mistress that you are interested in submitting to. While you are listening. And, you really must listen. How is your body responding to the answers? Do you feel like you are in good hands with this Mistress?

For me- I love the power exchange I get to experience with the different guys or sometimes girls, I get to play with. I find it very exciting.  Depending on the kink my experiences and love of our play and power exchange changes. I love cock sucking training–I am using this as an example and I get really turned on by using my strap-on. I find my self to be more nurturing when face fucking a guy. This power exchange is very erotic to me. Where as, I am really into corporal punishment but it turns me on for very different reasons. I am a little more meaner and at the same time- I still care.

Don’t forget these 2 important questions to ask your phone dominatrix:

4) Am I okay to use a safe word? Change my mind?

This is a very important question to ask, especially when talking with a new Mistress or phone Dominatrix. Does her answer make you feel that she expects total obedience and it’s not okay? I say move on and keep looking!

I am all for consensual, sane, safe BDSM practices.  I want you to feel good about our time together not only physically but emotionally. I like to do do after care and ask that do take care of yourself outside of the session. I like when you communicate with me between sessions.  I most definitely want you to use a safe word or change your mind on something–if you feel the need to do just that. Don’t ever hesitate when it comes to that.  I love being a Mistress– I am a Mistress with a big heart, not a heartless person that thinks it’s my way or the highway. So, it’s very important to communicate. Especially, in these situations.

For example. I have a guy that likes to act like he is very reluctant about eating his own cum. We talked about it and it’s the one time he is not allowed to use a safe word. He can act anyway he wants but he has to get on cam and he has to eat every last drop of his cum for me as I watch him do it on Skype. He knows if he does not —  there are consequences and we talked this all out. We understand each other and have a great time together. He eats his cum.  In the beginning, if we didn’t communicate I might not have insisted on it.

In regards of After care, I don’t include it in my list of questions here; but, it is a great followup question to ask a Mistress about what she offers her submissive when it comes to after care.

5) Am I allowed to call other Mistresses?

This is a good question to ask. Some Mistresses are going to feel differently than I am about the subject. For me, I don’t mind if you call and talk to other Mistresses. I actually do love to show you off and share. I just ask that you are respectful to everyone involved. Depending on our relationship and if you are in chastity or some other arrangement with me. There might be some rules but that depends on an individual case by case. I sometimes say, call this Mistress but no orgasm. or you get a ruined orgasm.  But there are guys that like the idea that they are not allowed to talk to other Mistresses. I am not a good fit for that guy because I have fun sharing!

In conclusion–These are just 5 questions you need to ask a potential new Mistress.  I hardly scratch the surface to questions that can be asked.  I strongly suggest you call the Mistress you are interested on the phone and ask her these questions. That’s the best way to find out if there is potential to a really hot BDSM future for you both.

I wish you the best on your journey as a submissive and choosing the right Mistress to play with makes a world of difference in your experiences.

I want to capture your cock and penetrate your mind.

Princess And

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